I wouldn't ask your husband about whether or not he's discussed alimony w/his lawyer. He most likely has been advised as to what to expect in the way of paying alimony and child support. When you speak to your lawyer, ask him questions because you need to be up on your game as to what you are entitled to and allow your lawyer to do the heavy work for you. Divorce is a business deal and one that requires both parties to have others do as much of their heavy work as possible.
I am sorry that your h isn't attending your daughter's party. He's missing out on some really good memories, memories that can't be redone at a later date. Confirmation is a memorable achievement and one that is shared w/family members. Congratulations to her on her upcoming Confirmation.
You can make a list of short term goals for you and your children. There is nothing wrong w/that. Those goals should be ones that you want to do and haven't had a chance to do for quite some time. The list is for you and will help you keep your mind off your husband and what he's doing.
Good luck with your visit with the lawyer. Be sure to make a list of questions before you go. I'm sure that there will be more questions as you go along and he will be there to guide and support you. The most important thing is to protect yourself and ensure that you and your children have ample funds to live on.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
