Done with a WW and moving on

[SoTorn]

Well, I am all moved out. Moved into a very nice and modern home just five minutes from my old house. My kids really love the new house. I am looking forward to the weeks I get to spend with them. My kids are spending my first week in my home with me. Which is good because I need their company.

I am not going to lie, I immediately feel extremely lonely. I am really sad. I have never lived alone in my entire life. I have always had a family. Its going to take a good amount of time to get used to this. I feel like I am in someone elses home. My new GF is going to visit me as often as possible. She is coming on June 7th and staying with me for at least a week. She wont stay with me when the kids are here. Not until they are comfortable here with me. They met her and they like her so when she does come to stay and they are here they will be fine. She is looking forward to doing things with them. When they are home during the summer and I am at work she said she would take them to do things like swim and go to the movies etc. Thats good because I want them to get to know her. I plan on her being in my life because she is a very sweet and caring woman and I am extremely happy to have met her. I feel lucky to have met her honestly.

I was very uneasy living in my house with my EXWW. She is spinning badly. D16 told me that my EXWW was struggling with me moving out and that she is extremely sad. EXWW has been saying "sorry" over and over again to D16. EXWW keeps telling D16 that I wont talk to her. That is true. I won't spark up a conversation with her. I don't initiate anything with her. If she talks to me I will talk to her. I greet her and thats about it. Unfortunately, every single time we talk, my EXWW drives the conversation to a point where she is blaming me for all of this. I just validate her feelings and end the conversation. I don't have the time, patience or energy to waste on any sort of conversation that doesnt have to do with anything important.

D16 told me that she hates the old house now. Thats probably why she hung out with me at my new house all day and didnt want to go home. S12 and D16 are excited with the new house. They really like the house.

I ran to Target to pick up some essentials for the night and D16 messaged me saying she was going to come by my house. The thing is that she was with my EXWW. My EXWW desperately wants to look at the house I got.

I am not trying to be a d*ck, but I don't want my EXWW at my house. I dont want to see her or interact with her for anything other than logistical issues with the kids. Other than that I have zero desire to socialize with her. D16 told e that EXWW wants to see my house. From the way my EXWW acts it seems like she wants to make sure the house is up to her standards.

My two friends that helped me move, both told me that all they could see was a very bitter controlling woman. Come to find out that my EXWW had a bunch of stuff that needed to go to the dump and Goodwill. She assumed that since my friend had a truck we were going to throw all this stuff away and donate it.

The thing is that my EXWW never once asked or mentioned anything about going to the dump or Goodwill. She just demanded it be done. Honestly if she would have asked me in advance I could have scheduled it with my buddy. But he didnt have time to do anything else but help me move the large items.

Of course EXWW got mad because I wasnt doing what she demanded of my friend and I. She kept making snide comments about how I wasnt doing what she asked of me.

Also, EXWW got mad because I didnt search for a house based on whether or not they take pets. My goal was to just stay close and in the same school district for my kids. EXWW had already decided that I was going to take the cat and watch the dogs whenever she goes out of town. The lease specifically says no pets and I refuse to lose my security deposit because she needs my convenience

Then even though she had agreed to take anything I want from the house, when I started to pack up the big TV. she got very angry at me telling me she cant afford to buy a TV. I dont understand how someone who makes nearly $150K/yr cant afford a TV.

Regardless of feeling lonely and sad, I know that this is the start of a whole new chapter of my life, one where my kids and I come first and where I make the decisions that make me happy and drive my life forward. I am looking forward to flourishing.