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[tadpole1025]

Thanks JujuB and Cadet.

I still get upset when having to deal with ex or being confronted with memories.

Me too. I'd rather never have to deal with her again, but I know that is unlikely since we do have kids together.

I don’t necessarily know if we are actually mourning something that was real though. It was real to us at the time. We loved and had the capability to love. But I don’t think our ex’s were capable of loving that way.

I agree. I do know that she loved me, but not sure if she loved me the way that I loved her.

When I look back, there were so many selfish things he did that just never registered.

Yeah. I see this now too.

This also has helped me with forgiveness and puts a whole new spin on the past 35 years.

Thanks Cadet. I suppose this is my biggest problem. While the pain has subsided and I'm mostly "over" her, still not sure if I can completely forgive her. I know that I should and forgiveness is mostly for me, but still can't right now. Maybe some day, but not yet.

Tad