Ooh I must have missed your big date! I can just imagine you sighing and rolling your eyes at yet another man saying he's confused about his feelings about you, that's not really what you need is it?!
You're not cake eating, you're staying open to the idea of R but also exploring other possibilities. It wasn't you who chose to leave after all. It's weird that so many men in their 20s are into you, what's that all about?! I can see the attraction from your point of view though, I don't think I'd turn down a nice looking 20 or 30 something right about now...