Destroyed if you are looking for validation. Look for it in the same sex first. Then try the woman's side they feel and think, process, and perceive things way differently then we do. If I can recommend a good book to many others here. Should I Stay or Should I Go, or I think its called Too Bad To Stay Too Good To Leave. A lot of insight from a woman's perspective, but I warn you, it may bring up a lot of guilt and shame when it points our some of the things we were, or were not doing,
