Let me ask you this question LH 19? If people aren't meant for 1 another which does happen in marriages and the reason why people get divorced? Then why is it that there was enough attraction there in the beginning to get married in the first place? Why did that some marriages make it between 7 years and 25 years before divorce?
Because people change IH. What you are looking for in a partner when your 20 is not necessarily what you want when your 40 or 50. People don't always live up to there end of the bargain. People who did not come from happy healthy families have no idea what it takes to have a healthy relationship. I believe that in marriage there are 50 percent of people get divorced 47 percent of people who aren't necessarily happy but are not miserable enough or too scared to file for divorce and 3% who are truly in love with one another. We just happen to be in the 50% category. But at least there is hope to make it to the 3% category. I have many friends in the 47% category that have no hope. Why do you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? As far as the institution of marriage, I think it is out dated. It worked when you use to live to be 30-35. Now that's too long to be with one person. People change, feelings change. IMO marriage should be set up based on 5 year contracts. You can choose to renew or terminate every five years. I most likely will never marry again.
As far as venting, I get you use the board to do that and at times that is ok. Yours just has a different feel to it and is very unproductive.
