And if he invites me to do something with them? Accept some invitations but not all, and have no expectations? This is a very tricky sea to navigate. I feel like I have a million questions in how to handle so much. Il try not to over think it and just maybe have a handful of statements prepared so I don’t get caught up in any R talk. We have our annual holiday soon for a week, that’s going to be tough.
H just picked up the kids and alluded to a sport event on tv that we would normally watch together and I just replied “aw I didn’t know it was on, I’m sure you’ll enjoy it”...was that ok? Normally I’d have either asked or heavily hinted to watch it with him. I didn’t get up to say goodbye and said enjoy your weekend with the kids. He did ask my plans...I probably gave to much detail but given our history, surely transparency is best? You know I honestly thought I was doing quite well in detaching...I very clearly have a lot to learn. This is exactly the additional support I needed. I’m so so grateful.
It’s hard to imagine he would want his cake and eat it. But I believe you in saying that’s what this is. When he left last year he wanted this whole new life and to do loads of things he felt he couldn’t do while he was in an R with me...outdoorsy stuff really. He hasnt done any of it, his unhappiness followed him when he left and now he buries himself in work when not with the kids.
I will avoid R convos like the plague...if that’s not a 180 for me, I don’t know what is!!
