A quick question please Steve. This really hit home for me and as difficult as it will be, I want to try harder to work on me...sooo, do I tell him we can’t be together working on this? Or do I leave all R talks alone and simply get on with it. I’m asking because technically our label is “together and working on it”. Thank you so much again.
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Originally Posted by Toto11
Or do I leave all R talks alone and simply get on with it.
This ^^^^^^
Speak with Actions not Words.
Listen to Cadet. Avoid all R talks like the plague. If he asks what is going on you say: "I am sorry, but I realize that I have a lot of changes I need to make." Leave it a that. If he starts asking questions: "Sorry, but there is a lot I am dealing with, and a lot to consider. I need time to consider everything before I can provide you with concrete answers."
Keep conversations with him about logistics around the kids. "Together and working on it" is a lie. He is out doing whatever he wants. He isn't being a H. Being together means he is WITH you and no one else.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
