I have a question for you guys. How common is it for a WW to be both a walk away spouse and having a midlife crisis. I feel like her midlife crisis in some ways is causing her to create a new narrative of being unhappy for so long in our marriage. I know she has been depressed at being a SAHM, but I didn't think she was unhappy with me and our marriage. Now she makes it sound like I have never been a partner. This crushes me.
First of all it matters little what the definition of her is. You do the same things. What you have written above is the definition of a MLC
She is unhappy with herself, so there is no room for you. Until she is healed and whole she is in no shape to be in a marriage/relationship.
So you take this GIFT of TIME that she is giving you and improve yourself so that you can be the best YOU that you could possible be.
Stop pressuring her and let go - if she is truly yours then she will be back, if she does not then she was really never yours to begin with.
