I have not posted in a few weeks, but read posts everyday and find all of your advice so helpful ... Not much has changed with my H.. He is still living away, very little contact and he is still ''happy with his decision''... So I saw my therapist last Monday and we spoke about me drawing a line in the sand and basically start looking after myself (no kids)..That evening I text my H, and asked to meet, he had said a few weeks ago that it was unfair to be ''dragging this out, especially on me''... He is so considerate!!(NOT!)... So I took the bull by the horns and decided to instigate a meeting to stop dragging this out (I used his words).....Told him that it was unfair on me...I NEED TO REGAIN SOME POWER!!! I got a reply a few hours later, totally blasay, saying that it would have to be next week as he was busy this week!it was a cold, emotionless reply.... I thought long and hard about my reply... I simply said that we were not to meet at our home and we would have to meet on a day when we were both off... I was very direct in my reply.. He replied straight away... bit taken aback I think... That it would have to be Saturday week if I wanted a day we were both off ( he is busy this weekend, obviously away with OW!!)... I feel at this point, he does not want to work on fixing the marriage, he is happy having the fun life and having the OW as his ''distraction'' as he called her and that is so casual!!He is has been pulling all the strings and keeping me in limbo... When I think how he left me and literally jumped into bed with another woman, 2 weeks after I miscarried.. I get so angry....He thinks this behaviour is okay!!He is not the same person, but I cant get this OW out of my head.. Is he happier with her, do they have more fun together etc... It breaks my heart.... I am detaching and instigating this meeting is my way of saying I am not tolerating this anymore and if he wants to live the single life, I will not stand in his way...
I just need some of your thoughts and opinions.. Was I right to instigate this meeting, I know I had to do this in order to move on for myself....Help me to get this OW out of my thoughts she is after all who he wants to be with these days!!!
I am reading ''Co dependent no more'' and I find it great....,
