Silent reader over here. I wrote a post that didn’t post for some reason yesterday to you before your H decided he wasn’t staying here.
And honestly? I am relieved. He is borderline emotionally abusive to you. He gaslights. When I read about the other night you had, I was cringing. He says he doesn’t want to talk about anything , tells you when you asked if he needed anything “it’s going to take more than lamb and lipstick” and you still try to nice him and he says “ I don’t you I didn’t want to talk” really? He leaves you with a disrespectful comment, you address it and you aren’t supposed to say anything? Oh heck no! He’s been disrespectful and mean to you so many times. Don’t validate that BEHAVIOR. Validating emotions is one thing, but validating his kind of behavior is a huge no. Next time say “I will not tolerate disrespect and WALK AWAY.
Whatever his deal is, he needs to deal with it on his own. Not in the same vicinity as you. You are not there to be someone to beat up in his depression or whatever it is. You don’t want your kids to see that .
Let him have his alone time without you catering to his needs and emotions, and mistreatment of you. He’s in for a rude awakening to find out you are not to blame for the way he is acting or feels.
