Cadet. Thank you for your reply. I have the DB book. I read it a lot. I have several self help books that are for working on me and my self esteem also. I’m proud of how far I’ve come in terms of being much more emotionally stable...which I will add, can be particularly tricky when you have bipolar disorder. Sometimes it’s like asking a diabetic not to be diabetic.

I can only assume my next steps are patience, patience and more patience. I’m journaling to find a fine balance between DBing and piecing. Not pursuing, but being very upbeat and positive, as well as being open to accepting invites or listening/validating. Short of that, I’m simply not sure what else to try. Although I’m sure it’s not unique, it certainly feels like a pretty unique MR. Two people who won’t give up and D but also don’t seem to move forward. Maybe I should ask H why he won’t just give up and D me? But then again, I’m not supposed to bring up D if I’m DBing!! Urghhhhh! Thank you again.