I just looked back at what I wrote to you when you first joined. I still stand by what I wrote. You have analysed and analysed your marriage and made some changes. But I don't think you've been able to properly analyse because you don't know the whole picture.
But it doesn't matter because you've arrived at your destination anyway.
By that I don't necessarily mean D, but where you drop the rope and decide that he can get on with whatever it is and you will only think about yourself and your kids.