Focus on you and your kids. Let go of H. Give him to God. Trust in Him.
Soon dear Gerda, soon. The toxicity will lessen, the fears will lessen, and the pressures you have been living under will lessen.
Focus on you and your kids. Keep your headings. Have faith.
I think you will be shocked when you experience the absence of the stress and pressure caused by H. Gerda then will truly get to shine, and that is something I am looking forward too.
What a wonderful action from your friend. You’ve been blessed with her as a friend.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.