I had an absolute terrible marriage counseling session today. I have tried to make so many 180s, but I have not made any progress in winning back my wife's love. I know this shouldn't be my expectation from the advice on this site, but it is so counterintuitive.
I love my wife and kids so much. I just don't want my family destroyed.
During the counseling session she said that she has been unhappy and lonely for so many years and is just done.I never in a million years would have thought that she has been this unhappy. I have always thought we got along really well. Sure, there were reoccurring problems by both of us, but not to the extent that I thought our marriage was in trouble. PLEASE GOD HELP ME.
Ovr, see bolded line.
In more plain English this is a sign of depression, you did not break her and you can not fix her.
Getting divorced will not make her more happy, she must do that herself.
All you can do is FIX yourself and make yourself into a person only a FOOL would leave. You might be married to a FOOL but that is out of your control.
Concentrate on the things you can control. YOU!
Cadet,
I think you are so right. She is depressed. She always hated being a SAHM, but she was scared to actually get a job. Then she says that she is the only adult in the relationship. Meanwhile I am a highly functioning executive. Unbelievable.
I need a plan for fixing myself. I have lost 50 pounds so far, but I really need to get interests outside of the house. I love watching football, but I don't have many hobbies that don't involve just reading.
