Married couple from Scandinavia

[BenB]

I went back and read all posts in my thread just now and realize how much I´ve experienced and changed in just these past few weeks. Feels like that´s the thing about being a LBS, time slows down and you gain so much experience in such short amount of time. As some posters have written on these forums, as horrible as this is, it is also a gift. It is necessary for me to go through this. I wouldn´t want to be the person I was back in February. Who knows what´s to come.

I think where I need the most help is how I should behave towards her in certain situations. I can see she is struggling with her spending. She was never great with money and now in this state of mind she´s worse. Not that she buys many things but it´s small expenses that pile up. Restaurant´s with her friends every Saturday for example. She is used to me taking her to expensive restaurants and wants to have that wuthout me as well even though she knows she can´t. Afterwards, taxi home. Since she has many invoices each month hardly any money is left for these type of activities. Her friends, however, don´t seem to have those problems but she doesn´t want to miss out.

Last week she texted me and asked if she could borrow some money to pay one of her invoices. She said she would pay me back when she receives her salary. That was two days ago and I haven´t received anything yet. I know she can´t afford to pay me back. I certainly don´t need the money back but what is the right thing to do here? Should I ask for the money? Again, this is not new behaviour from her but she had gotten better for so long and now she´s right back to her old, spending self(of course). A small part of me enjoys this in a way. I sort of think that she will crash sooner than later since she is desperate to keep up with a lifestyle she can´t afford.

Another thing she does often is to ask me for tickets to shows and concerts. Since I work in the entertainment industry she knows I can arrange this. Does anyone have any advice for what I should do when she asks? It doesn´t cost me anything to get her and her friends tickets so if I said no she would naturally want to know why.