Letter #1 (paraphrase):

- Sorry for my actions. Unacceptable. I've been hurtful and abusive.
- 12 examples. Here's what I did, here's how I imagine you felt, I regret what I did.
- It must be hard to live with me.
- I'm worried about impact on the kids.
- I'm going back to IC.
- I know if I don't change you might have to leave.
- I hope you forgive me some day.
- Hope you can share your feelings with me

Letter #2 (paraphrase):
- I love you (with list of 10 reasons why)
- I want to have a future together with you
- I hope we can work together to heal this hurt.

Letter #3 (paraphrase):
- Specifically addressing one event
- I need to change, I understand if you are afraid of me.

I'm pretty sure I don't need anyone to reply...... Really bad........ Wish I had found DB before this..............

It's been 6-7 weeks since. I asked to talk in person after Letter #3, she said in front of an IC.
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So you tell me if I'm wrong. I'm pretty sure W is scared of talking to me.

How can I go back and say:
- I freaked out, and did the event in Letter #3, because I thought you were leaving.
- I wrote those over-the-top letters because I was scared of losing you. I ALSO wanted to apologize to you.
- I can see in retrospect how one-sided and awful those communications were.
- I am calm now, I accept any outcome to our M, but I want to try to stay together.

I just don't think DB'ing alone is going to address this issue. I can be AMOAFWL, but it's not going to matter if she's afraid of me.