Wow this is so frustrating. My wife is showing little signs of depression, she is pleasant and acting normal. But she has shown absolutely zero indication of acknowledging / discussing our relationship. She loves the silent treatment, has for years. How in the world can we ever move forward if we can discuss our relationship. Of course I can’t bring up cause those always go south. The patience required for this is beyond what I thought. I figured the patience was for their replay behaviours which my wife is showing none of anymore. She was depressed and withdrawn for 3 months but now grounded. I want to so badly say, Hey What about Me!!!! It is impossible to detach. We live, eat, raise kids, go to soccer, watch bball together. Our conversations are limited now, she barely has interest in anything about me but is completely nice to me. I realize this is all about her in her mind. All the mlc stories I read are extreme, in terms of monster and separation etc. I don’t have that. I do have a wife that has exhibited many mlc indicators though. I hope this is a mild mlc. Do I literally do nothing until she talks for the first time? How can I lead? I’ve seen some instagram posts that she wants a man that will lay everything on the line to know she’s ok. What the hell? How can I do that when I can’t even talk to her. Everyday my frustration, resentment anger build. I decompress and try hard to gather my thoughts and feelings. Patience through this is insane, I can’t imagine how others manage with monsters and severe mlc.
