You GAL like a mad man until she approaches you to either 1. D you or 2. Work on the marriage
How does this resolve communication issues?
Our communication skills as a couple are terrible. We do not handle conflict well. We avoid. She gets angry and I defend and pull back. Both of us need to work on our part (IMO).
I can't make my W decide to change how she communicates. I can, however, change how I communicate. Example 180s for me would be:
- Stop avoiding conflict out of fear/anxiety - Accept my W being angry, ask her about it, avoid problem solving, validate, let her vent - Don't demand that we talk, just propose that we talk. - State calmly my position (the distance in our R will not resolve on its own, we both need to work on it), but don't insist on any action by my W. - Handle however the talk goes with emotional balance
Originally Posted by LH19
If you want to have the talk then have the talk but you better wear a cup because there is a really good chance she is going to kick you in the nuts.
