Am I doing this right??

[AnotherStander]

Hi Goddess, Is OW married or do you know? Seems like when the WAS isn't pressing for D even though an OP is in the picture, it's usually because the OP is married as well.

We sold the house (something we'd been talking about prior to BD) and bought a new one in the area we'd been wanting to move. He helped move. Began coming around and hanging out at the house.

But he's never lived there? I'm curious how all that went down, did the two of you buy the new house under the presumption that you would both be living there or was the house specifically for you and the kids?

Then May arrives and along comes OW again.

Where had she been until then? Did they break up or was she deployed elsewhere?

Whelp I got set aside so fast my head spun. Our conversation dwindled during the days leading up to her arrival(Ive been No initiating contact since the begining of his runaway replay behaviour in Sept) then I didnt hear boo feom him for 5 days.

OK sounds like she was just gone for a while, so he probably never let up with her, but she wasn't immediately available so he reverted back to Plan B (you) temporarily.

I completely ignored the next two temp checks. One was midnight this past friday Asking why I was ignoring him lol. Clearly NC from me makes him anxious. So my question is am I handling this whole thing right?

Yes I think so. I think you need to go as dark on him as you can, keeping contact limited to discussions about finances or the kids. You need to protect yourself financially, but you've got to stop his cake-eating.