Am I doing this right??

[Goddess8]

Thanks for the feedback. This part of things is new for me. I feel we were having small baby steps forward in the months OW was gone, but since she's been back we are at square one. Minus the negativity and him blaming me for everything. He quit saying they were just friends months ago and apologized for the affair and hurting me. Considering it was over text and pretty sure he'd been drinking I chalked it up to guilt and manipulation and took it with a grain of salt.

I know for a fact she is controlling and jealous which I find poetically hilarious since he's been that way off and on for years. Its an issue he needs to overcome(assuming he ever does the personal work). Is it safe to say since the bright shiney new toy is back in town I should remain completely backed off and do not initiate any contact unless an emergency? Then if he reaches out when is it ok to respond?