Toto, every once in a while a sitch comes through that makes me ask this question:
What are you trying to save here? This seems like an extremely dysfunctional marriage. And without a lot of help, starting with both of you being completely committed to work on things, I don't see a lot of hope for the future. If you both come back together without dealing with everything individually first, and then as a couple, you will be doomed to a repeat.
So what are you doing to focus on you? How are your GAL activities? Are you emotionally, lovingly detached from him (IE do not react emotionally to things he says and does)? How are your 180s coming along?
Focus on all of that. And forget him for now. He'll either come around.....or he won't. But you have too much work to do on you to worry about that. As does he.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
