you sound like you're doing ok Goddess8, keep up with the GAL, particularly stuff he never wanted to do!
I too get the whole 'you're with me because of money' thing because I've been a SAHM. It's rewriting history. I earnt more than my H for a few years and we've been broke together and we've been rich together and I would swap every single penny we have to get my H back. When my H was going through a hellish time at work and was worried about losing his job, I told him that I didn't care about money, that we would be ok no matter what happened with his job and that he was more important to me than any amount of money. Guess what he throws in my face now about that time? I WASN'T SUPPORTIVE ENOUGH This makes me utterly spit with rage, but at the same time I know that it's my H's way of saying he doesn't feel appreciated for earning lots of money, and that at the time I should have validated my socks off instead of saying this stuff. I disrespected his feelings, and I still don't understand this but I accept it. I also think there is a LOT of jealousy there, because I have a very flexible life now the kids are older, and he is stuck working 14 hour days. But there's not much to do about that, his jealousy is his own business.
Sorry, I made this all about me, but I can see a few parallels in our sitches (other than I don't think my H is having an A but who really knows). I think maybe you let him back too early the first time, he got lonely when the OW went and was using you as his plan B till plan A arrived back on the scene.
