Thriving not surviving. Thread 5.

[SoTorn]

I agree Allison, it hurts and you want your H back. If he is already gone then what you did was not wrong. It was your choice. There is no right or wrong, its only what you feel is right or wrong to do. If you felt the need to tell him that, then thats your choice, so dont beat yourself up about it.

If you are honestly to the point where you want him back or nothing, then its probably a good thing you voiced that to him. Maybe its time for LRT for you. Maybe you need to start moving on and remove him from your heart.

I made that decision with my EXWW. She pushed the D along finally and I agreed and signed it all without hesitation, because I am way to valuable to be sitting around waiting for someone who has shown me they dont care about me and that they will choose their selfish desires before me.

I dropped that rope and lit it on fire. I will not play games or wait around. I have way too much to live for and way too much to offer. My EXWW wanted out, she got it and I will NOT look back. I absolutely miss my wife, but not this selfish NPD shell of my wife. The person that I loved is long gone and therefore, so am I.

You will find love again. If your H doesnt come back, you will find someone that will cherish you, love you, support you, empathize with you, adore you, pay attention to you, life you up and treat you like the goddess that you are, because you deserve that. I promise that you will feel better. I am on my last two days in my home with my EXWW and my kids. Then I am off on my own in the wild for the first time ever with my kids half the time. I am looking forward to steering my own life and meeting my own goals. You will get to the same point by choosing to do so. When the time is right for you.