You are completely right that I am doing the 180s wrong. I am doing everything that I think my wife will like. I am buying here massages, flowers, doing the dishes, etc. I am in the denial stage and still think that I can win back her love like I was dating her again. I also don't feel I am in the right frame of mind to let her go. I know I need to, but boy that is hard. I won her love doing certain things, and it is so counterintuitive to think that I shouldn't keep doing those things. It is also confusing because they say what you didn't do in you marriage that got you to this point, so you want to correct those complaints.
Steve, how were you able to focus on working? I am having such a hard time focusing. I am just so sad.
I didn't. My work suffered bad for weeks. It was hard because I had just come off a stellar year where I was a top performer performer and rewarded handsomely for it.
If you have a good relationship with your boss I would tell them you're going through some things personally and will do your best to but let it affect your work. But that you may need some flexibility.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
