Thanks Destroyd I really appreciate any and all positive thoughts and prayers.

R2C I am trying to make sure my DBing right. I havent made any noise about the A or OW. Minus early on after a few drinks when we were hanging out. And even then it was along the lines of "I know I cant change your mind or control what you do, but you know you'll have to make a choice" paraphrasing as its been months. He was attempting to cake eat for sure. Even called me his "ride or die" saying he'd always be there for me no matter what. And I was his best friend. Well ya I always had been. I guess I worry about coming off ambivalent to the affair. I refuse to be actively labeled as his plan B, but I also worry that its blatantly obvious since I still wear my rings.


Me: 36 H: 37
M: 16 T: 17
Kids: S15 D14 D11
BD: July '18
OW confirmed Nov '18 (he told me)
H moved out Jan '19