Just a word of caution regrading you not deserving to be talked to disrespectfully. If she does it again, then call her out on it. But don't say to her, "I don't deserve to be talked to that way". That sounds too.......you know.....girly. It's one thing for us to tell YOU that you deserve that type of treatment, but it doesn't sound very masculine for you to put your hands on your hips, stomp your foot and say you don't deserve that type of treatment. Sorry, just had that image run through my head.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Sorry, just had that image run through my head.