Gosh Alison- when you'd said you'd done something insane I thought you'd lost your sh** and killed him.
I don't think anybody needs to point out it goes against DB principles; you know that already.
But i'm going to look at it differently. If you've reached the end of your tolerance then that's your right. Essentially you've said 'be in this marriage, all in, or get out' I don't think that's any different from my 'I'm not continuing in a 3 person relationship, so it's over'
So, you've reached your boundary. Let's hope that he knows you well enough to know that you mean it. And if you mean it then follow it through. Last resort technique.
If tomorrow you have regrets then apologise or pretend it didn't happen.
Only you can decide which route to follow. You are strong enough for whichever route you choose.
