W got angry about my distance a week ago so I've dialed back the aloofness. It's an experiment in progress.
An experiment in letting her reactions control your behaviors? This is what wasn't working before. It won't work now.
If the dog pees on the carpet and you give the dog a treat, the dog will continue to pee on the carpet. The dog is able to recognize that misbehaving equals a treat. You are giving W a treat and she is peeing on your carpet. Keep handing out treats and cleaning up pee, or stop handing them out until the dog pees outside. Your choice and your life.
It is hard and I still struggle with this too, but work on doing what you want, not what you think she wants you to do. This doesn't mean be mean, vindictive, or rude. Be nice, be friendly, be considerate. Just like you'd treat anyone else in your life.
Last edited by LB55; 05/29/1906:12 PM.
Me40; W38; S12; D9 BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18 D Final 7/2020 Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.
