I am a little late to this party but my .02 for what it is worth.

Since bomb drop I have taken 3 genetics classes and that actually has helped me look at some of
this with a different perspective.

You were married for a long time and you have children together.

Those children you will love like no others for the rest of your life.

Now they are made up of 50% you and 50% your ex.
So no matter how much you detach from her and let her go,
you will never do that for the 50% of her that is in your children.
You will love them unconditionally.

This also has helped me with forgiveness and puts a whole new spin on the past 35 years.

Hope that makes some sense.

Me-70, D37,S36