FS, so much of what you say rings so true to me, and I see many parallels in our situations. So much limbo for so long. I have noticed a real numbness to my feelings as well, and have thought often about what you described as the slow, peeling off of the bandaid (I like the term plaster much better , ha!) Sometimes I find myself looking to your situation almost as a window into my own; I can see through yours so much more clearly than my own. I'm thinking more and more that my H may literally just be purely cake eating, plain and simple. It makes me pretty angry when I think of it that way... I am really impressed that you are entering (however gingerly) the dating world. I will really look forward to hearing how that goes. I've finally moved into the place of feeling that if someone interesting were to ask me out in an organic way (HA) that I would do it, but I can't face the world of online dating at this point. I'm looking forward to your reports!