So so new to this :(

[peacetoday]

very tough thing about the kids--you will have to pray and follow your heart
an trust the goodness of God
our kids are tougher than we think and they will learn from watching you-

If it were me, I would stall as long as possible with letting them have overnights with OW and H
any excuse available--but that is me
If they do stay with them, I would watch for substance abuse, alcohol issues and make sure they are always safe
We don't know who the OW is or if she is abusive-I would keep a strong eye on this
your kids are still young


If keeping them with limited visits is not possible, then learn your rights as far as custody goes, talk to others who have been in this situation, seek therapy or co-parenting counseling if he is willing to discuss some of these issues that you are already having with the lies
I agree to talk with the kids openly, be available as they will be confused, be a strong rock for them
but it is ok for them to also see you sad,...you can simply say I feel sad without blaming your H or putting him down in any way