Thanks Steve and AS, and Allison. I needed to hear this.
Its strange that as vets you never falter, your advice is solid and consistent. I think maybe they will grant an exception this time in their advice, but you are so seasoned its second nature to you to give the proper answer. Good job!

Its painful to watch her, but I need to stay out of her life. Tonight my father in law (who is still great friends with me, and helped me thru this by acknowledging his daughter's off-the-wall behavior this last year) told me her mother is coming to visit, so I think her distress signal landed and she has found someone to help.

As far as the bed, I just bought him a bed for my house, for the few days he is sitting with me, and since she takes more money than I make from me (I borrow for her alimony) I am unfortunately not left with much. I am dependent on her good decision making to see to it he gets a proper bed.


B.D in December 2018
Physical Affairs discovered in April 2019
Divorced May 2019
H (me) 49
W (her) 29