I'm with everyone else. Stop writing letters and pursuing. If you can get those letters back, get them back and burn them. My WW used mine to claim all sorts of things in court to take away the kids, get more money, etc...we aren't final yet but all these mental health evals and alcohol evals are a pain and are expensive. All for problems I don't have. She blamed me for everything under the sun, i admitted to all kinds of crazy stuff in a letter, hoped she would see my change and come back and help me through my tough times. She promptly gave said letter to her lawyer as enclosure 1. Don't give her anymore ability to use a victim mentality against you. Don't F yourself with more pursuit. My $0.02.
Even if I found them, she would have copied them. This is my true worst-case scenario - W trying to get sole custody, RO, the whole bit. I admitted to a lot in those letters, I was apologizing, trying to win my W back. I don't think any of it would hold up, but I'm sure she could make the process more difficult and use the leverage. I guess this is why we have L's and forensic psychologists -- man this put a damper on my PMA.
