Acceptance stage and reconnection

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The number of success stories of reconciliation is also low

It only seems that way because they usually quit posting once they patch things up. I've been here long enough to see quite a few people come on here for a 2nd time. They patch things up and never even bother to come here to say they successfully reconciled. Then they fall right back into old habits, a few years pass, they get BD'd again and come back here wanting to know what to do. The fast turnarounds usually don't "stick" because the LBS didn't take the time to do real 180's on their faults.

This is very inspirational, as someone who basically is assuming I should just walk.

Any more to offer? I cant help but feel like when the wife has a months-long affair that we're just...toast, statistically. (Vs. a man having a one night pump and dump, for example).