I have a LOT of refinement to do on my methods. I think I'm doing pretty good for being so new, but it's that last 20%+ that's really hard (I'd imagine).
Quick recap: ILUBNILWY a month ago. Wedding ring given back. Suspect EA, maybe PA (she's on the road a lot for work). I'm not ready for confirmation yet. Live together, sleep in same bed. Almost an in-house S, she is free to run away and close the door. I'm staying away as much as possible. No real spew yet, no more R talks (only three before I really knew better... that's not happening anymore). Only once was the D word used, but she talked extensively about running. No questions from me beyond how was your day (that may be ending too). Staying nice and upbeat to her face, and being a ghost most of the time (95%). We are avoiding each other, I'm not chasing. She has done a tiny, tiny bit... microscopic. I'm not biting, pulling away even more (but I love to see it).
