It sounds like she is trying to either work out her own issues, or exert control by hurting you with these nasty little gibes. Either way it is a sure sign that she is still broken. Healthy people don't need to do that. Rise above and ignore it. She will either get past all that or she won't. Either way it's not your circus.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
