That’s pretty much what I’ve been doing. Helping out around the house, dinner, dishes, laundry, etc. I know she appreciates the help, I should have done this long ago.
A lot of us became the world's greatest housekeeper after BD. It's like Steve said though, that's like getting an oil change after you've thrown a rod through the side of the block. Some beta behavior (in combination with alpha) is great in a happy marriage, but after your M crashes and burns then doubling down on beta behavior just looks weak and pathetic to the WAS. You've got to get back in touch with your alpha side. The sooner the better.
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There’s something different about her this time. She talks about our future apart so matter-of-factly. She’s told her friends and mom (not her dad yet, her parents are divorced) that we are getting divorced.
Yes, BD is different than anything you've been through before. This isn't just another fight that you can sooth over with some flowers. She is DONE. For now anyway. With time that may change, but there is no quick fix to "get things back to normal". She is following the typical pattern. Believe us when we say you have a long road ahead.
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I’m out of chances and ideas. I’m pretty humble but I’m also very successful and driven, I’ve been able to accomplish pretty much everything I’ve put my mind to but this may be where I fail.
You haven't even been at this a month!!! And you're out of chances and ideas? Brother you are still standing at the starting line of the marathon waiting for the gun to go off! You have not even STARTED the hard work! Everyone comes here wanting to know what magic spell to chant to make the nightmare go away. There isn't one. You've got a lot of hard work ahead, and this will test your patience like nothing you've been through. Buckle yourself in!
