So its been a month since our divorce, and I got to say I am alot better off than I thought I would be.
Once again the thoughts of something menacing in the horizon were more painful than the actual thing.
But I have a big moral dilemma, and new found pain.
I see my wife struggling. Not doing well. I was her entire support system. Of course like everyone says here, their OM affair will fizzle (and it did) and they will face their new harsh reality alone. Her new home with my son has no bed, they sleep on the floor, I gave them my mattreses. She has no car ( I was her driver), so she walks the kid back and forth to school everyday, and walks to the supermarket, and walks to work etc. I babysit the kid every afternoon when she is at work (even though on paper she has custody and I pay her my unemployment check for her rent). But all that I do is not enough. She is crashing and its painful to watch. Her skin is bad, she is back on daily migraines (I had helped her with all that via massage and talking, she was always an overthinker and analyzer and I gave her emotional support), and she told me she has dizzy spells.
I detached, but I still love this human being. I am not an animal. Do not think I am looking to get her back. I am really happy alone (working out, studying) but I feel obligated to step in and rescue her. This woman once gave me her all.
But she fired me right? So what am I to do???
Damn this MLC, WAW whatever the hell it is.
Its the "gift" that keeps on giving.
Last edited by gzabetas; 05/28/1909:38 AM.
B.D in December 2018 Physical Affairs discovered in April 2019 Divorced May 2019 H (me) 49 W (her) 29