If it is a new guy who seems decent, I would let up on this. It’ll only end up hurting your son. Trust me. I can’t remember, was OM bad to your son? A danger?
Nah, same OM as before (#4, really) who was raising cobras in his apartment and has a criminal history. He's not allowed to be around S unless W is there to supervise. But OM and W have both said it was just a casual thing, except W seems to think she has/had feels for the dude...which she said about OM #3, and it's kind of a pattern for her. She's just a mess, and that's her problem. I didn't ask for that stipulation, and it's not my problem. W needs to learn to be a responsible adult, and I'm not gonna do that...but I'll definitely be fine with a judge doing that at this point.
I've got plenty of my own consequences to deal with because of the mess she left behind. She can deal with this one. S and I have actually been doing a lot better. D is still pending, but we're just waiting for her atty to quit messing around with the final decree (trying to manipulate the amounts of child support). I'm taking on all of the debts except for some IRS debt. She's basically getting out mostly free and clear except child support since S lives with me, so she's trying to get that down or eliminate it so that I can't handle the money situation, fail at life, and she swoops in like the hero and tries to get custody back (after willingly handing it over).
Lately she's been doing little things to try to get back around me, like today she wanted to see S knowing that I'd have to be around her to hand him off. It's not her visitation time, she saw him Wed and Thursday nights, and the entire week before that because I had to travel with work. It's subtle, but it's a thing I've noticed her doing. When she hears that I'm doing well, she tries to get all friendly to kind of check up on me. Not really interested in letting her do that lately.
I wanted to save it, she went full narc. Never go full narc. I don't play well with abusive people.
