A question about the ring. I don't know what to do with it. I keep on taking it off and putting it back on. Is this normal or just me? What have you guys done? To me it symbolises our marriage, from here to eternity, but right now it's more from here to MLC. I don't know. Today I want to put it back on.
This is very normal, many of us have fought this question. I know I did. On and off is normal, and it is also okay if this changes day to day.
For me, I looked at my hand and asked whether looking at the ring brought me strength or pain. That helped me decide what was best.
In my situation I took my engagement ring off first, since that was the ring with deeper memories of happy times. I wore only my simple wedding band as a subtle reminder that I married, though not in an active relationship. After a time this did not seem to be accurate so I took that off as well. It was a slow process.
If you do find that you take your rings off here's a little trick I did: Keep your nails painted. I tend to not have painted nails as my default, but with the absense of my rings I was shocked every time I saw my hands. So I painted my nails for a long while as I adjusted to my new look. It actually helped!
