I am fully prepared to do just that for a BD situation.
I am thinking more how to handle it if she approaches me for some R talk but does not BD. I feel like this would be a rare (only?) opportunity to at least talk a bit about the past 5 months. My W has shown zero willingness to R talk for months.
I understand my sitch is toxic and basically a sure-fire bet to end in D. She seems 100% committed to D, and any pleasantness between us is likely due to her wanting to co-parent amicably.
But if there is any chance to reduce the toxicity, I'd like to at least try.
I'm truly curious why she was so angry about me being distant. Most likely it's a way for her to further justify in her head that she needs out. But it could also be an opportunity for me to be clear what I want, without getting overly emotional (which might be one of her fears, and thus a 180 opportunity). I could just say, flat-out, I feel like we are drifting apart so far that our M is in peril, and I want to reconnect because I love her and want this to work.
