So so new to this :(

[peacetoday]

I would not bring up the intimacy issue with him unless he approaches you
and you will probably be meeting in public places if you need to talk about issues

If he makes advances :
maybe say something like-and get some others opinions also to pick what feels right for you
without blaming him for his irresponsible behavior

start with a positive like
:I appreciate ---anything he does that is nice
example:
even the simple stuff--I appreciate you calling the kids before bed-That is so helpful(whatever he does)
then....

I feel it is best for me and the kids to keep our co-parenting relationship just that-
no blaming no shaming just a real fact


About the kids:

I set real strong boundries and did not let my kids go the XH home
they never met OW

He had to come to our home to see them-and MY xh didn't fight me on this
My 5 year old had severe allergies and I really fought --my xh gave up-

so I may not be the best example but my kids always came first and looking back, I am grateful he left
MY kids are grown and doing amazing-



Each of us has to choose what is best and every choice has a consequence--for good or not-

I would always advise any LBS to Put those kids first and whatever the consequence with the MLCer...it is just that-