Have received a letter from solicitor. H has stated his intention to defend the Divorce petition. Doesn't like the grounds of unacceptable behaviour that have been cited. He would prefer to wait 2 years and agree to D on the grounds of 2 years separation or if Yorkie is insistent on D then he will not defend D on the grounds of adultery (but I must not name the downgrade) In essence he would rather be seen as a cheat rather than someone who hasn't supported his wife's career or has pursued his own interests above those of the family. Narcissistic image management!
Thankfully a public holiday so have had a couple of days to calm down. Sister hit me over the head and reminded me that it is just a means to an end. She knows that I hate the fact that he is exercising control still and that all my allegations could be justified in court. But it's not worth the aggravation and extra cost to stick to my guns.
So i will instruct the lawyer to respond in such a way that he knows that the allegations still stand but that for the sake of forward progression we will alter the petition and get it filed this week.
Still no production of financial information which is now over a month late. Once D is filed then we can push for a court date and the judge will set a deadline. I suppose the good thing is that we have found his Achilles heel. He doesn't want his professional image damaging so should respond if he thinks that he will have to answer to a judge.
