I was reading material on the Heroic Spouse website today..... which is very interesting...... her stages of MLC are different. Different names, different order. I'm just trying to understand all thoughts/theories.
Anyway.... she says something that is very opposite what people say here which is the need to face the "Monster". I could be wrong, but I take that to mean the R talks, or the spew. She says the "Monster" has to exhaust itself and get all that energy out so the MLC'er can get thru a phase (I'm guessing Replay?). Here we are told to GAL, cut the conversation short and get out of dodge.
I'm just curious if there's any truth to standing (totally detached and strong) and weather a full onslaught of the verbal Monster until it's powder runs dry. That means, no getting emotional, no firing back, no validation just the simple "I'm sorry you feel that way" stuff. Is there any truth to this? I'm new, I'm early, I have a long way to go. Thanks! -SoloFlex
