If you can, I'd do a call (or calls) with the phone coaches.
You need a plan of attack, and you need change. This doesn't sound like a WW or MLC, so at least she's sane (all the other people just want some sanity and we'd be golden).
It sounds like she's a regular woman with some emotional problems and got fed up. The good thing is you know what you want, you know you have problems, and she's still there.
Here's what I would do.... you need to wooo her. You need to bend over backwards and sacrifice. AND you need to make it permanent. That means, you "change" for a little while, and go back to being what you were..... forget it, you're done (and I wouldn't blame her).
Now if it was a MLC W, don't do any of this, that's suicide. But for a real woman..... heck ya. And the other thing.... this is VERY important. Enjoy it. Now about enjoyment: What you enjoy, everything..... is a CHOICE. You may HATE doing dishes... do them and choose to enjoy it. You don't like cleaning toilets..... do it, and choose to enjoy it.
Find out what she doesn't like doing the most, and DO IT. Did you neglect something which is important to her? Get on it, right now. Then do it again, and do it again, and do it again. Change your behavior. Don't point it out to her. Don't say look at me. You need to HUMBLE yourself. You also need to pray for your wife, for yourself and for your marriage. Humble yourself. Change. Be the best man you can be. Then talk to her, probe her mind, start interesting conversation. Bring up good memories...... LISTEN and more importantly, HEAR. Shut your mount and don't try to fix her problems. Only act if she asks. Other than that, listen and hear. Women need their sounding board, and they need to know you care. Ask questions but do not try and solve their stuff yourself.
Make her happiness worth more to you then your own.
You still have a chance. Use it. It's not just time to man up, it's time to Husband up. You can do it. Take action, not words.
-SoloFlex
Thanks soloflex. That’s pretty much what I’ve been doing. Helping out around the house, dinner, dishes, laundry, etc. I know she appreciates the help, I should have done this long ago. Unfortunately, she’s already given me chances to do this and I’ve failed. There’s something different about her this time. She talks about our future apart so matter-of-factly. She’s told her friends and mom (not her dad yet, her parents are divorced) that we are getting divorced. I’ve been doing my best to “detach” and talk about the future apart with her but it crushes my soul inside. I’m out of chances and ideas. I’m pretty humble but I’m also very successful and driven, I’ve been able to accomplish pretty much everything I’ve put my mind to but this may be where I fail. I don’t think I’d have any trouble finding love elsewhere but I’m not interested in that. I love my wife, the mother of my child, and that’s all I want.
