But the information is important to have, even if you can't put it into action right now. It will serve you for a R or for a future relationship.
Perhaps self care (GAL and detaching) need to be a higher priority. But sometimes our 180s can come from the feedback we've had from our spouses.
My H's LL is 'acts of service' and while I can't do too much for him in that department - we're not in piecing and not living together - I do try to bear in mind he's an 'actions speak louder than words' kind of guy, which means me speaking a bit less, and watching how he acts towards me.
