Soloflex. I would like to hear you're ideas and theories about our spouses being emotionally bankrupt. Do you really think it has to do with themselves as an individual? Or do you think it just has to do with the dynamics of the R? Or both?
They are bankrupt, of that I have no doubt. What makes it hard for us is there is no perfect R, so we have "what if's" to beat ourselves up with. Normally you get to work on issues and resolve them. Once this MLC happens, and there is no working on these issues. Everything stops. That increases guilt on us. I'm not sure what it does to them... they're so lost anyway..... they can't process anything.
No, the R is NOT the problem. They are broken, that is the problem.
