Complex WW and/or MLC #3

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Update:
Kids had their golf league practice last night. It was W night with the kids but I offered to help get them to course as she had to work late.

Really nice day in my area so I was sitting up on the deck having some wine and dinner with friends. She got off work a little after golf ended so I fed the kids at the club and continued to hang with friends and have some drinks. When she arrived the boys were down playing around on range/practice area and so I offered her to order dinner and have a drink (she accepted). From there my friend started ordering tequila (again) <-- yes there might be a theme here We all had a really good time hanging out. This is important as it was her seeing my GAL in person, we were talking about nights in the last week where we had a really good time at the club golfing, drinking, hanging out (while she had the kids). It was so pleasing for me to watch her hear this and know that i'm 100% out GAL without her. Due to conversation going on she made multiple comments about my new 'look'. We talked a lot about events coming up a the club (tournaments) that usually have a 'spouse' night, etc. I have not invited her to any of these and one of the main events starts next week (she has the kids). She asked about this multiple times in the evening, I answered questions about dates and timing but then changed the subject. I will NOT be inviting her to this. She also made comments about taking Golf lessons (it has been something I've wanted her to do for along time) Its also something she has wanted for a long time (mainly cause she's the only one in the family that does not golf - so for the kids) but due to resentment of golf/club she never took any initiative to get it done. When she made these comments I just looked at her and gave her "that look" which she knew meant... It would have been great for you to take lessons in the past, and yes I would like you to take lessons BUT YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE HERE TAKING LESSONS UNLESS/UNTIL YOU DECIDE WHO/WHAT YOU ARE DOING. There is NO DOUBT in my mind she knew EXACTLY WHAT THIS LOOK WAS. Anyway...

As the night went on kids were back and forth to the table and course entertaining themselves and she made a couple of comments about staying at my house. I just ignored them. Finally at the end of the night as I was packing up the kids and their stuff she found me, walked up to me and said "KISS ME!". I did, a quick one but a good one. She then said "Hey, so can we come over"? I said: Ok' sure. didn't make anything of it. Came over put the kids down and we went to bed and had sex again.

Of course this was nice, but I still am not putting anything on it (Yet). It's clearly a "step" but I know that this could just be what we are doing at this time due to space/time and no decisions have been made. For me, I basically just 'hooked-up" with someone I know really well. I understand that she very well could hang out with OM over this long weekend when I'm camping with the kids (without her). Fine! get it out of your system. I know what I have to offer in all areas. That grass IS NOT greener over there - so all the power to you.

For me.. this is just a form of feeling each other out, like you might do at the beginning of any relationship. I'm not together with her, I'm also not stopping what I'm doing with GAL and focusing on detachment. Admittedly this might make 'real' detachment a little harder, but I still believe that if I continue to focus on fake till you make it... she'll get the general feeling that although this is 'nice', I'm fine with or WITHOUT her. Shes' getting a little of what she wants, she's attracted to me again, but she also knows she does not fully have me. It's a bit of a tease and I'm becoming OM now.

I have the kids out of town through Monday, then again on Tuesday night. From Wednesday through Sunday night of next week I'm either fully booked with work or in the tournament. So timing was perfect for me to set this stage and then get back to focusing ONLY on me and GAL.

The fog is lifting...