What is limbo? Here all along I’ve been thinking limbo is the pre-BD period. As if when BD happens I will escape limbo. And I just realized it might extend all the way until D final.
Limbo is nothing more than a state of mind. I've seen people who were still in limbo years after their spouse was gone and the D was in the books. And I've seen people who were not in limbo despite having been BD'd just a month before. Limbo is paralysis. It's operating from a place of fear. It's being afraid to GAL or anything else because the WAS might react negatively to it. Limbo is being hyper focused on the WAS and not yourself. I've seen soooo many people here talk about how they hate being stuck in limbo. My response is "then do something". Why are you dead and still and stagnant and waiting? DO SOMETHING. Marriage isn't who we are. It's one small part of a great tapestry we weave in life. If our marriage goes on the fritz that's no reason to stop weaving. You can weave your life whether you're married or not.
